What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of assaultive and coercive actions used by adults or teenagers to obtain power and control over their intimate partners, including physical, sexual, and psychological assaults, as well as economic coercion.
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What are the causes of domestic violence?
It is not caused by stress, frustration, or substance abuse; it is a choice to be aggressive and/or abusive. Domestic violence is never justified; it is a heinous violation of human rights.
When does it happen?
Domestic violence can start at any time during a relationship, but it is rarely a one-time occurrence. Over time, incidents of violent, threatening, or controlling behaviour increase in frequency and severity.
Why don't victims leave?
Leaving an abusive relationship is a very long and difficult process. It is important to remember that leaving is a process and not an event and that abuse and risk increase at the point of leaving a relationship.
What is the best way to end an abusive relationship?
There are professionals who can help you end a relationship in the most secure way possible. You might be able to speak with a trusted person who can speak with agencies on your behalf. It can be quite difficult to leave an abusive relationship. Your partner may try to persuade you that they will change, or they may threaten you with further abuse or consequences if you don't. To stay safe, you may need to relocate to a shelter for a while. Planning to flee may take time, and you may need to save money and gather crucial documents such as a passport and birth certificate.
Is the abuse my fault?
Only the abuser has the power to put an end to the abuse. Abuse is a choice made by the perpetrator. They'll convince you that you're to blame, but the truth is that nothing you do or don't do will make them change their ways. You may feel helpless and assume that you are the only one who can help them change, but you are not responsible for their actions.